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Post by redheaded on Mar 3, 2008 18:42:29 GMT -5
Hey Kat, I vowed growing up that I would not financially depend on my partner. My parents fought constantly when I was growing up but Mom could not leave my Dad due to money problems. And witnessing the fights and abuse I knew I would rather be alone than being with someone with lots of money. But I'm surviving and my daughter is happy in our condo and it is perfect for just the two of us and of course Max our big black furry cat ! Good luck with your job I'm sure you will do great ! Remember 'this too shall pass' This is my motto and I always try to remember those four important words. Take care Kat and keep up with your wonderful artwork !!
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Post by KATRINA on Mar 10, 2008 19:11:30 GMT -5
HI Julie, I just popped in here today after being gone for a week to see if you had written, well the job...sort of sucks..I am counting the hours everyday till quitting time and sprinting for the door then. I hope something better comes along soon, I hope all the time. yes, this too shall pass is a good one, I use that one too. it helps. life goes in cycles, I am in a bad one right now but that will change eventually. you are lucky to have things sorted out so well in your won life, its easy to get sidetracked with bullshit. chasing possesions etc...money is just a tool. I am happy when I have the things I need, thats all any of us really needs, why worry about the things you will never have? if your basic needs are met, you are rich.
take care, Love, Kat
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Post by shoebox on Mar 12, 2008 7:19:16 GMT -5
quote author=katrinagrrl board=fnf thread=1129236858 post=1205194290]HI Julie, I just popped in here today after being gone for a week to see if you had written, well the job...sort of sucks..I am counting the hours everyday till quitting time and sprinting for the door then. I hope something better comes along soon, I hope all the time. yes, this too shall pass is a good one, I use that one too. it helps. life goes in cycles, I am in a bad one right now but that will change eventually. you are lucky to have things sorted out so well in your won life, its easy to get sidetracked with bullshit. chasing possesions etc...money is just a tool. I am happy when I have the things I need, thats all any of us really needs, why worry about the things you will never have? if your basic needs are met, you are rich. take care, Love, Kat[/quote] So true Kat....remember a job just pays the bills it will never define who you really are.( If I remember a very talented artist) so hang in there and just enjoy the ride a little bumpy right now, but in time the road will smooth.
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Post by bruce on Mar 15, 2008 2:47:27 GMT -5
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Post by KATRINA on Mar 15, 2008 10:37:46 GMT -5
Yes, Kat is a talented artist - I am honoured to have some orginal Kat art in my possession!! as I am honored to count you among my friends Bruce and to have my work adorn your walls. we have to talk for real someday soon....its good to see you back on here again!
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Post by redheaded on Mar 28, 2008 21:27:05 GMT -5
Yes, Kat is a talented artist - I am honoured to have some orginal Kat art in my possession!! as I am honored to count you among my friends Bruce and to have my work adorn your walls. we have to talk for real someday soon....its good to see you back on here again! Bruce and Kat..I love seeing your posts..you both are extremley compassionate and two wonderful people with heart's of gold..and I truly mean that.. !! Take care and I wish you the best..right now my life sucks due to a crappy relationship ..which is new..but seriously I give up perhaps we are destined to be alone for the rest of our lives !.
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Post by shoebox on Mar 29, 2008 9:16:05 GMT -5
as I am honored to count you among my friends Bruce and to have my work adorn your walls. we have to talk for real someday soon....its good to see you back on here again! Bruce and Kat..I love seeing your posts..you both are extremley compassionate and two wonderful people with heart's of gold..and I truly mean that.. !! Take care and I wish you the best..right now my life sucks due to a crappy relationship ..which is new..but seriously I give up perhaps we are destined to be alone for the rest of our lives !. Don't give up, bad relationships are just stepping stones to finding the right one. If you give up you may miss that one that fits you. Selene from the movie Underworld...Talk about bad relationships a vampire and a werewolf, now there's a mix that's ready to bite (pardon the pun).... We are never alone, we always have ourselves the most trusted and reliable companion ever. You know your worth more then anyone so hang in there the right one will be along. Oh, if the Selene thing made you smile, then you also have Kat, Bruce, and me....
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Post by bruce on Mar 30, 2008 3:26:40 GMT -5
Hi Julie Sorry to hear this. If you need a sympathetic ear, I am here to help. Cheers Bruce as I am honored to count you among my friends Bruce and to have my work adorn your walls. we have to talk for real someday soon....its good to see you back on here again! Bruce and Kat..I love seeing your posts..you both are extremley compassionate and two wonderful people with heart's of gold..and I truly mean that.. !! Take care and I wish you the best..right now my life sucks due to a crappy relationship ..which is new..but seriously I give up perhaps we are destined to be alone for the rest of our lives !.
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Post by KATRINA on Mar 31, 2008 13:01:32 GMT -5
as I am honored to count you among my friends Bruce and to have my work adorn your walls. we have to talk for real someday soon....its good to see you back on here again! Bruce and Kat..I love seeing your posts..you both are extremley compassionate and two wonderful people with heart's of gold..and I truly mean that.. !! Take care and I wish you the best..right now my life sucks due to a crappy relationship ..which is new..but seriously I give up perhaps we are destined to be alone for the rest of our lives !. it does seem that way at times...I have been 'alone' longer than I care to think about...I hope you find the one you are meant to be with!
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Post by redheaded on Apr 9, 2008 7:22:25 GMT -5
Hey Kate. At least there are a few more people posting which is nice to see. I'm sure many of the old members won't return but I embrace the new members and the dialogue we can continue in Gia's memory. Sometimes I want a man in my life so I can give my daughter so much more than I can give her now. But I grew up with physical and mental abuse and I vowed that I would stop the cycle and not put my daughter through that heartbreak. I would rather struggle financially at times than stay with an abusive partner and have my daughter witness the abuse. No matter what anyone says those emotional scars stay with you for the rest of your life. Hopefully I can spoil her with love and affection and if we can't see the world so be it !
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Post by redheaded on Apr 9, 2008 7:26:33 GMT -5
Bruce and Kat..I love seeing your posts..you both are extremley compassionate and two wonderful people with heart's of gold..and I truly mean that.. !! Take care and I wish you the best..right now my life sucks due to a crappy relationship ..which is new..but seriously I give up perhaps we are destined to be alone for the rest of our lives !. it does seem that way at times...I have been 'alone' longer than I care to think about...I hope you find the one you are meant to be with! Sometimes I think the people who are alone are stronger than others who always have to be in a relationship...Just my opinion.. I feel like Mad Max a drifter and a loner ...that song by Whitesnake Here I go again...I love reminds me of my life !
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Post by shoebox on Apr 9, 2008 21:27:11 GMT -5
I know what the two of you mean, when My wife and I divorced I felt really alone, but also free. No more worrying about someone else, just dealing with my life only kind of thing. Don't get me wrong it was a mutual split, I could not stop being me and what I did, she could no longer deal with it, so we called it quits.
Later after she died I felt really, really alone like something was missing, and we were divorced for a number of years, but as time moved slowly on I learned to stand alone again, even dine out by myself. I think what you say is true being alone makes you stronger and besides we always find someone to fit in when we need it.
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Post by redheaded on Apr 12, 2008 7:47:23 GMT -5
Shoebox I'm so sorry about your ex. My ex and I are on good terms and if anything happened to him I would be devestated especially since my daughter would not have her Daddy I feel stronger when I'm alone maybe because I'm financially dependent on my own and I can be strong..which sounds strange I suppose.
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Post by shoebox on Apr 12, 2008 18:31:40 GMT -5
Shoebox I'm so sorry about your ex. My ex and I are on good terms and if anything happened to him I would be devestated especially since my daughter would not have her Daddy I feel stronger when I'm alone maybe because I'm financially dependent on my own and I can be strong..which sounds strange I suppose. No not strange, I think we feel stronger when were alone because we can see the things we accomplish clearer even the small day to day things like earning a living, suddenly it's just us alone and we start to notice those small things. My daughter is a good example, after her Mom pasted on she just stepped up and took charge of everything including her own life, which surprised the dickens out of me. I'm really proud of her the way she just seemed to grow-up and take charge...
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Post by KATRINA on Apr 13, 2008 10:26:00 GMT -5
kids can really be amazing...give them the basics...support and encouragement and then stand back! I am awed a bit by kids sometimes and what they can accomplish
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